US sex columnist Dan Savage caused more than a ripple to the Australian conservative status quo by daring to suggest that non-monogamy could help long-term relationships. He is right ---Perhaps the culturally dominant baby boomer generation still clings to outdated notions that heterosexual marriage is the ultimate bedrock institution on which our social fabric is tightly woven together, but the rest of us have surely moved on. The really dangerous ideas are the ones our churches and conservative leaders have been forcing on us for generations – ideas that are finally unraveling.